Taking responsibility is NOT something we should seek to avoid – it’s something we must embrace if we want to experience all of the great rewards that life has to offer!
A perfect example is when I accepted the responsibility to quit smoking. I’ll guarantee you, the genuine, long-term satisfaction I received from quitting smoking was far greater than the short-term satisfaction I ever got from lighting up a cigarette! And that’s just one small example that illustrates the enormous benefits of taking
The famous American novelist Mary McCarthy once said that “Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is
about creating yourself.”
What a message! You certainly don’t have control over the gift of life, no one would argue with that. But what about the rest of your life – the life you choose to create for yourself starting right this very moment?
The challenge is to create yourself by making an unconditional commitment to take responsibility for every aspect of your life. All you have to do is say, “Beginning today, I assume total responsibility for who I am and what I become.”
Michael Gerber, a world-renowned business don’t fail because of uncontrollable forces, like competition or lack of money or lazy employees. According to Gerber, the business reflects the person running it … which is why business owners need to go to work ON their business, not IN their business. In Gerber’s words, “Your business is nothing more than a distinct reflection of who you are. If your thinking is sloppy, your business will be sloppy. If you are disorganized, then your business will be disorganized. If you are greedy, the people around you will be greedy. So if your business is to change – as it must if you are to be successful then – YOU must change.”
In my opinion, Gerber is right on the money. To become truly successful in any endeavor – whether it’s business … or parenting … or coaching the local Little League baseball team – we have to go to work ON our lives, not IN our lives!
And that, my friends, this is why YOU, INC. is the new paradigm in personal success.
YOU, INC. is the New Standard in Personal Growth and Achievement.
You Inc. is based on the premise that you are the founder, president, and 100 percent stockholder in your own company
– YOU, INCORPORATED.
In other words, YOU, INC. is a whole new way of thinking about yourself and how you relate to the world around you.
When you heighten your awareness and expand your personal paradigm so that you can “discover the CEO within.”
In short, in order for you to get the most out of your God-given abilities and talents, you’ve got to reprogram
yourself to “Think – YOU, INC.!
Building a network marketing business is a fantastic and challenging experience.
You can wake up exhilarated to begin your day and go to bed feeling overwhelmed and frustrated. The key to success is to maintain a positive, “YES I can do it!” mindset.
Here are 5 powerful ways to help you create and sustain a positive mindset so you attain the success you desire.
1. Surround yourself with successful and positive people.
The influence people have over our own personal energy is amazing. Moods and attitudes are so easily spread – think about how much of a difference a simple smile from a stranger can make for your day and then magnify it 1000 times to demonstrate the power of positive and successful friends, family and associates. When you have people around you who inspire you, believe in you and want you to succeed, there’s no room for doubts and even when they creep up, they’re quickly swept away.
2. Create a mantra or an affirmation.
Repeating positive affirmations has been shown to get people through tough times and to actually help them truly believe what they’re saying.
For example, if you think about the phrase “I am building a powerful and profitable business”, you’ll find that over time that positive thought will become a part of your reality. Many top earners and leaders in our industry have used the same affirmation strategy along with hard work to attain their success. To find the right affirmations for you, consider writing a quick list of your doubts, insecurities and complaints. These can then be quickly turned around into positive affirmations.
For example, if you write that you’re always feeling disorganized then your affirmation would be, “I am organized and in control.” Repeat your affirmations several times a day and feel the power of positive thinking.
3. Capture negative thoughts.
We all have negative thoughts from time to time, however, negative thoughts and emotions can derail us and prevent us from achieving the results we desire. Think about it…would you want to purchase a product from someone who was negative and stressed?
Of course catching those negative thoughts takes practice and persistence. When you find yourself thinking negative thoughts or having negative emotions, find a trigger to turn them around. The affirmations mentioned above are a great way to turn the negative into the positive. You can also find quick pick me ups like a favorite song, a walk outside in the fresh air, or some exercise to help improve your mood.
4. Set goals/intentions and then be willing to let it go.
The law of attraction says that we attract what we focus on the most. However, desperation, needing your business to be a success, sends mixed messages and a lot of negativity into the universe. Set your goals and intentions and then let them go. A certain amount of faith in yourself and in the power of attraction is necessary. Give it a try.
5. Be grateful.
Gratitude is perhaps the single most powerful and positive tool for success. When you’re grateful for all of the wonderful things and people in your life the challenges you face seem significantly less important and are more easily dealt with.
Consider keeping a gratitude journal and make a practice of entering into it daily. That way, when you’re facing challenges a quick peek at all the amazing things in your life will make you feel as if you can tackle anything. Additionally, an attitude of gratitude helps you maintain a positive perspective and to face challenges as opportunities rather than obstacles.
Success is within your reach and with the right attitude you can accomplish anything you set your sights on. Embrace these five powerful mind success strategies and you’ll build a better business and live a happier, more satisfying life!
Had bought into Wozniak’s dream of building one computer
to fool around with as a hobby, instead of the other way around?
Do you think the computer industry would be where it is today?
… or the economy? … or the world, for that matter?
Not a chance!
But because Steven Jobs had the Vision and courage to dream a big dream,
he got big, BIG results … and as a result, millions of people all over the world
have access to powerful, affordable computers.
Jobs’ big dream not only created a mega-industry
-it revolutionized the way the world lives and works.
Jobs is proof that big dreams create big results. Little dreams produce little results.
And no dreams? You guessed it -no results!
Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich,
uses a wonderful metaphor to describe the importance of dreams in our lives.
He says, “A dream is a blueprint for your ultimate achievements.”
Isn’t that a wonderful way of putting it? When you think about it,
we’re all architects of our own lives, aren’t we?
We draw up our blueprints with our dreams
… and then we set about building those dreams.
It stands to reason that you can’t build a mansion
with mobile-home-size dreams.
Like I said, little dreams produce little results.
What About Your Dreams?
What about the size of your dreams?
Are you reaching for big dreams, like young Steven Jobs?
Or are you settling for little dreams, like young Steve Wozniak?
Do you have big dreams so that you can enjoy big results?
Or are you limiting the size of your achievements by having small dreams?
Is your dream to own a mansion?
… or to rent a one-bedroom apartment?
Is your dream to send your children to a top notch university?
… or to the local junior college while they live at home?
Is your dream to own your own high-profit business?
… or to work at a company where you do the work
while your boss gets the credit (and the raises) ?
Maybe you have big dreams for your life.
If you do, you’re an exception, that’s for sure.
It’s been my experience that most people settle for drawing up
low-budget, mediocre-dream blueprints for their lives.
I think it’s because the vast majority of people live their lives backward
..they let their income decide the size of their dreams
instead of allowing their dreams to determine the size of their income!
If more people would dream bigger dreams,
they’d be looking for opportunities to create more wealth in their lives,
instead of –
….budgeting their money
… budgeting their talents
… budgeting their ambitions
… and budgeting their potential.
In the words of Eleanor Roosevelt,
“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. “
I challenge you to dream big dreams and then to open your mind
to the possibilities of starting…growing….enjoying the fruits of a
I challenge you to think out of the box…
to do some dot.com dreaming…
and then to believe in the beauty of those dreams.
For when you do…
The future will belong to you!
Are you settling for less than you deserve?
Every day, all around, I see people settling for less.
They settle for less than what will truly make them happy. They settle for less than what they truly deserve. They settle for less money because they do not really believe they can make more. And they even settle for less because they simply don’t want to do what it will take to change their situation. It’s too hard or too scary.
People settle for a job they are not happy in because they do not really think they can change their situation. They settle for less-than-fulfilling relationships because at least what they have offers them security, or maybe they just don’t think it is possible to have all their heart dreams of.
Are you one of them?
You know, when you decide NOT to settle, it’s scary! It takes us waaaay out of our comfort zones. We might take that risk and lose something. What if we mess it up? What if we totally fail?
So, to avoid the pain & possibility of failing, we convince ourselves that it’s not possible to ‘have it all’ – so we might as well settle for what we can, and pretend we’re happy and fine with it.
But we’re not.
So often we’d prefer not to hang out on a limb that might break. It’s “too risky.” But I’d like to encourage you today not to settle.
You’re worth so much more than that. You deserve to have it all; to be happy; not to struggle day in & day out. You deserve to do something that fills your soul with contentment. You deserve to have wonderful relationships with your family and friends.
If you think perhaps you’ve laid down and settled in some area of your life, ask yourself: “What kind of world am I creating for myself by settling here when I know it’s not really what I want?”
Be honest with yourself and then decide to step out of your comfort zone and change it. Only you can have the courage to step out into what scares you…because it’s right outside your comfort zone that your greatest fulfillment and success will be found.
I can tell you from firsthand experience that being broke isn’t a joke.
- Being able to pay only the minimum on your credit card balance
- Renting instead of owning because you can’t afford the down payment
- Putting off going to the movies because it’s cheaper to rent a video
- Lying awake at night wondering how you’re going to pay the rent
Being broke means having to choose between going deeper in debt or going without. Every day I meet new people on my websites, at my training programs and seminars. Some have been in the Direct Selling industry for a long time and are very successful. Others are just getting started because they’ve realized that their “secure” job isn’t quite as secure as they had hoped.
But no matter where you fall in that category, one thing is certain:
Every person I meet has a strong vision for a prosperous future. And living broke is not a part of that vision.
In 2000, I wrote a book titled “You Can’t Steal Second With Your Foot On First” where I challenged Americans to stop taking the free enterprise system for granted. You can find out more information about that book here.
And today I’m going to share some of my viewpoints on the importance of free enterprise, why so many people are living “broke” lives, and how to break out of that cycle. It’s an important message that I strongly encourage you to pay attention to.
Are you ready?
Money is not the key to happiness. But, I do believe that the more money you have, the easier it is to get the key made.
How has being broke affected you and your family? It can be devastating, can’t it? Being broke means more stress, more physical illness, more bouts of depression, more anger, more worries, and more fears.
Yes, we’re all going to have some rain in our lives. That’s part of life, like it or not. But when you’ve got money, it’s easier to stay dry because you can afford to patch the roof or buy a new umbrella.
I don’t believe there is any shame in being broke. The only shame is in staying broke and accepting it as a way of life.
If you really truly want to break the cycle of being broke, you can… because “broke” is a temporary situation. It’s not a death sentence unless you act as your own judge and jury and condemn yourself.
If you’re tired of being broke and feeling sorry for yourself, and you’re ready to TRULY get over all your excuses and embrace the opportunity this industry offers- the opportunity right in front of you- then I’d like to give you a wake-up call.
There is a big, BIG difference between being broke and being poor.
Sometimes it takes a whack in the head to really realize the abundance of opportunity that surrounds us and to appreciate the difference between simply being “broke” and being “poor”, all you have to do is answer this question:
How would you feel if there were no hope of ever escaping from being broke?
Depression and misery would be your two constant companions, wouldn’t they?
When being broke is all you’ve ever known…all you’ll ever know…and all
there is…it becomes a permanent condition called poverty. Poverty is constant, it’s suffocating and it’s permanent.
The next time you’re showing a presentation, and your prospect starts crying about the lack of opportunity in this country today, I’d like you to remind him/her to take a look at what millions of other people outside America are facing. Remember the old adage, “I felt sorry for myself because I didn’t have any shoes. Then I met a man who didn’t have any feet.”
Don’t feel sorry for yourself because you’re too broke to buy new shoes…start looking at what’s going on outside in the world to see how true poverty cuts people off at the ankles.
Everywhere we look in the US, there is great opportunity to create wealth, and the Direct Marketing industry is one of the biggest wealth creation opportunities in existence. I want to challenge you today to get that “fire in your belly” again and embrace YOUR opportunity!
Free Enterprise gives you the ability- not the right- to become totally independent.
>> Free Enterprise is NOT the right to be protected from failure.
>> Free Enterprise is NOT the right to “do your own thing” without taking responsibility for the consequences.
So many people want security…but also want the big rewards that go along with taking calculated risks. And we can’t have it both ways, can we?
We want to have our cake and eat it too…but that’s simply not possible!
I’m challenging you today to get off the fence in life. Embrace this time in history as YOUR opportunity to create a legacy for your future generations to come. So many people in this world don’t have that opportunity- the HOPE- that we have.
You have the freedom to choose your own hours, to make your own decisions, to control your own destiny and create a future most people can only dream about. You can’t steal second with your foot on first.
To be financially free, you must step out of your comfort zone and take a chance on you!
Go out there and make it a great week!
You know, when it’s all said and done, freedom is not free. Whether you’re fighting for your financial independence or our country’s’ independence, you can always expect tragedy, sacrifice and pain. But in the end, it’s worth it. Speaking of making sacrifices:
As it relates to our business, when we make the sacrifice and give up some of the “good things” we may enjoy doing- like watching television all evening or mindlessly surfing the internet- when we exchange some of those time-wasters and instead do the things we don’t want to do- like going to those extra meetings, making those phone calls, dealing with rejection, being inconvenienced (all the things that need to be done to be successful and have that financial freedom)- then we can finally say we own our life again.
You have to do the work to earn the rewards.
This is the true value of being our own boss, calling our own shots and never having to worry about money again. And THAT freedom is not free. It’s something we have to sacrifice to get.
In order to make the withdrawals, we’ve got to make the deposits.
To the new distributor who’s just launching their business, or for anyone in our industry whose made the decision to take the plunge and make a commitment, you’re making the decision and are saying “I want to have more, do more and be more in my life! And not only for myself, but for my family & my children as well.”
It’s that fight, that spirit, that’s critical to your success. Sure, you can do all the right things and equip yourself with the tools and have some success. But when it’s all said and done, we should learn from those who have died to protect the freedom of our country and think about what they had to give up. If we can take THAT spirit and apply it towards the success of our business and have the attitude of “the least that I will do is whatever it takes in the pursuit of my freedom,” then success is inevitable.
“Life is not what happens to you, but what you make of it!”
When we’re out of balance, we’re listing to one side or the other, just waiting for a strong wind or a big wave to capsize us. But when we’re in balance, we’re solid….we’re stable… we’re upright… and we’re more likely to remain that way, no matter what the weather conditions.
Balance Your Life
“When the One Great Scorer comes to write against your name; He marks not that you won or lost, but how you played the game.” – Grantland Rice
Whatever your chosen profession, you have to hone your skills until profits come naturally and effortlessly. That said, the quest for profits must be tempered. Just look at what happens to so many famous people who “have it all” so to speak…only to lose it all when their lives veer out of balance.
Elvis Presley, the singer who sold more records than anyone in history, died at age 42, disoriented by drugs and 70 pounds overweight.
Marilyn Monroe, the most beautiful woman in the world, died before her 40th birthday from an apparent suicide brought on by depression.
Ty Cobb, one of the greatest hitters in the history of baseball, often said he wished he’d had a few less hits and few more friends. He died alone and friendless.
If you want to survive in your business over the long haul, you must make sure that you find the proper balance between work and leisure.
In an unbridled quest for success, many people devote all their time and effort to making money. But is this the best strategy to achieve enduring financial success? It depends. If you love what you do, you’ll enjoy yourself so much that it will not seem like you are working. But many people find that even the most enjoyable task can become mundane and tedious.
You need a break from the monotony occasionally. It’s not a good idea to live a life that consists of only endless days of sales calls, business deals, and strategy meetings. How long can you live a life of extreme self-control and self-denial before you burst out in a binge of reckless pleasure seeking? It’s better to plan on taking a break and having a good time before you crack under the strain.
You, Inc. is about dramatically improving your value in all areas of your life, not just your bank account.
Like the Bible says, “For what does a man profit if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?”
The key to balancing your life is to allot equal amounts of time and attention to each of the Five F’s.
Here they are in the order of their importance:
- One, Faith
- Two, Family
- Three, Fitness
- Four, Friends
- And Five, Finances
I’d like for you to think of balance as a wheel. In the center of the wheel is a hub called Faith. The spokes connecting the hub to the rim of the wheel would be the other four F’s – that is, Family… Fitness… Friends… and Finances. If the hub is weak or missing, the wheel will collapse under even the slightest pressure. If one or more of the spokes are weak or missing, the wheel gets wobbly and bent when it hits bumps and potholes in the road of life.
But when the hub is strong…when the spokes are solid and spaced equally inside the wheel…when the wheel is oiled and maintained on a regular basis…it will serve our needs and endure a lifetime!
Check out the 2003 list of leading causes of death in the United States:
- Heart Disease
Do you see a pattern here? Every one of the modern-day leading causes of death in America could be greatly reduced by changing our habits. Advances in medicine have blessed the vast majority of Americans with the opportunity to live long, healthy, pain-free lives. Yet millions of Americans are abusing that blessing by regularly eating junk food and sitting on the couch watching the “boob tube” instead of exercising. These are the same people who expect Medicare to pay for the pills to lower their blood pressure…the same people who expect Medicaid to cover the costs of their open-heart surgery.
Oh, sure, life can be cruel, and sometimes people get sick through no fault of their own. And we all feel for those people.
But when people make lifestyle choices that plunge them headlong into sickness, they’re intentionally throwing their lives out of balance. If you can’t quit smoking for yourself…if you can’t lose weight for yourself…do it for your family! Do it for your friends! They don’t want to see you suffer from an illness or die before your time!
That’s why I remind people, “When you’ve got your health, you’ve got just about everything.” Choose good health. Choose longevity. Most of all, choose balance.
Taking time off also helps boost your creative juices. Have you ever come upon a particularly difficult situation in your work life and you spend hours and hours trying to find a solution. You go home that night and can’t sleep thinking about it. Over the weekend you go take a walk on the beach, play a round of golf, or spend time with your family. When you go back to work Monday morning and look at your problem again all of a sudden the answer just “appears”. You say to yourself, “why didn’t I think of this before?” It’s so obvious. What you’ve done by taking time to relax and getting away from the situation, is given your mind time to “creatively solve” your problem.
Don’t underestimate the need for rest and relaxation. Take time off to spend with your family and friends. Don’t think that you must devote your entire life to making money. Cultivating balance between work and pleasure will produce rewards in terms of your overall morale. If you ignore this issue, you’ll eventually start making impulsive and emotional decisions.
Cultivating balance will not only help you achieve profitability; it will help you maintain it.
I’d like to conclude this discussion with a quick story that proves beyond a shadow of a doubt just how important balance is in our lives.
In 1923, nine of the world’s most successful financiers met at a swanky hotel in Chicago to discuss the economy. These nine men were the richest of the rich. Among those present at the round table meeting was the president of the New York Stock Exchange, the president of the world’s largest steel company, the president of the world’s largest electric company, the president of the world’s largest gas company, and the head of the world’s largest monopoly.
Fast forward 25 years to 1948. What do you think had happened to the nine men who had such enormous power and wealth a few years back…but lacked balance in their lives. Here’s a quick summary of their fates:
- Three of the nine men committed suicide.
- Three of the nine men died broke.
- Two of the nine men served time in prison.
- One of the nine men was declared legally insane.
In short, nine out of the nine dies unhappy…broke…disgraced…or insane. Every one of these nine men learned how to make money. But not one of them learned the value of balance. This story proves that balance isn’t just important to your well being.
Balance, my friend, is essential!!
Life is what we make of it – make it a great one starting today. Right now.